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Discover the amazing things 5-year-olds are learning — from climbing and jumping to friendships, feelings, and first words on a page. Each skill comes with fun activities you can try together.

Communication & Pragmatics

The social use of language — how children use verbal and non-verbal means to interact, share meaning, and navigate social situations.

Sources (5)
  • Head Start ELOF (Language & Communication)
  • SLP Standards (Pragmatic Language)
  • CASEL (Relationship Skills)
  • UK EYFS (Communication & Language)
  • Teaching Strategies GOLD
5 Subdomains
Conversational Skills Social & Pragmatic Language Theory of Mind Narrative & Discourse Skills8 Non-Verbal Communication
Narrative & Discourse Skills

Constructing extended spoken texts — telling stories, explaining processes, and recounting experiences.

Examples & Achievements

  • Tells a personal story with beginning, middle, and end
  • Retells a familiar story in correct sequence
  • Explains how to do something step by step ("first you... then you...")
  • Describes an event so that a listener who was not there can understand
  • Uses connecting words (then, so, because, but) in narratives

How to Measure

  • Narrative scoring scheme (story grammar elements present)
  • Retells a 3-event story in correct sequence
  • Includes 2+ story grammar elements (character, setting, problem, resolution)
  • TNL-2 (Test of Narrative Language)
Sources (3)
  • SLP Standards
  • Head Start ELOF
  • EYFS
8 Exercises
Daily High-Point Story Story Hand — Five-Finger Retell Wordless Picture Book Walk Story Dice Roll-and-Tell Teach the Clueless Chef PEER & CROWD Dialogic Reading Story Theater — Dictate & Act Phone-Home News
Teach the Clueless Chef

The child explains how to do something step-by-step to a “clueless” listener — an adult, sibling, or stuffed animal who pretends to know nothing at all. The exaggerated ignorance (“Wait, what’s bread? Do I eat the wrapper?”) forces the child to be explicit about every step and to use the procedural connectives first, then, after that, finally.

  1. Pick a process the child knows. Sandwich-making, brushing teeth, building a Lego model, feeding the dog, getting ready for bed, planting a seed.
  2. Adult plays the clueless apprentice. “I want to make a sandwich! I’ve never made one. What do I do first?”
  3. Child explains a step. Adult literally does it wrong. Bread on the head. Toothbrush in the ear. Lego upside-down. The comedy is the engine.
  4. Child corrects with more detail. “No! You put the bread on the PLATE, with the long side down!” Notice how the detail-density grows when the listener fails.
  5. Continue through 4–8 steps. Use clarifying questions: “And then what?”, “How much?”, “Which knife?”
  6. Switch roles. Adult explains how to do something silly (“how do you put on socks?”); child plays the clueless learner. Modelling the explicit-explanation pattern from the other direction deepens the structure.

Variation: Real Cooking Together — child recalls the steps from a simple recipe; adult only follows what’s said. Lego Instructions — child has built a model; adult has the pieces and copies what the child describes (without looking). Stuffed-Animal Lesson — teddy “wants to learn”; child teaches teddy. Robot Mode — adult is a robot who takes instructions literally (“walk to the fridge” — robot walks into the fridge); child must give more precise commands. Video Tutorial — child explains a process on camera while doing it; rewatch.

Requirements

  • Space: Kitchen, bedroom, anywhere the activity happens
  • Surface: Depends on activity; for sandwich-making, a clean table
  • Materials: Depends on what they're explaining — sandwich-making (bread, spread, child-safe knife); brushing teeth (toothbrush); Lego (a set the child has built); a stuffed animal works as the clueless learner for hands-off versions
  • Participants: 1 adult + 1 child; sibling teach-each-other works once the structure is learned
  • Supervision: Adult oversees safety (knives, hot surfaces) but plays "clueless" verbally — physical control stays with the adult for any hazard

Rationale & Objective

Procedural discourse is a distinct genre from narrative — it has its own cognitive structure (ordered steps, action verbs, conditionals) and its own developmental trajectory (Hughes, McGillivray & Schmidek, 1997). Uccelli et al.’s (2019) decontextualized-talk study found that explanatory and procedural talk in preschool was the strongest preschool predictor of academic language in middle adolescence — outperforming vocabulary and contextualized-talk measures. The “clueless listener” frame forces audience-design (theory of mind) and explicit ordering. Snow & Dickinson (1990) identified instructional / explanatory genres as the form of home talk most predictive of school readiness in low-income families. The same skill underpins Common Core W.K.2 (informative / explanatory writing) — children who can explain a process orally are better positioned to write one later. Honest framing — 5-year-olds typically produce 3–4 well-ordered steps; expecting 7+ is developmentally premature without scaffolding. Build slowly.

Progress Indicators

  • Early: skips steps, mimes more than narrates; gives 1–2 vague directions (“you put it on then eat it”)
  • Developing: 3–4 sequenced steps with “and then”; needs prompting for missing steps (“what about the butter?”)
  • Proficient: 5–7 ordered steps with first / then / next / finally; specifies key details (how much, which one); anticipates listener confusion (“not THAT knife — the safe one”)
  • Advanced: explains a multi-step process completely from memory; uses “because” to give reasons (“we need water because the toothbrush has to be wet”); spontaneously teaches younger siblings using the same structure

Safety Notes

  • Knife use — use a child-safe (round-tipped, serrated plastic) knife for sandwich activities; adult always within arm’s reach
  • Hot stoves and ovens are off-limits for active operation; “tell me how to do it” works fine while the adult does the hot step
  • Don’t shame skipped steps; the “wait, then what?” approach lets the child notice the gap on their own
  • For frustration-prone children, drop to 2–3 step activities (putting on shoes); build up over weeks
  • Limit explanation sessions to 5–8 minutes — procedural talk is high cognitive load
  • Watch for food allergies if the procedure involves cooking

Hints

  • Playfulness: the “robot” or “alien” who takes instructions absurdly literally is the engine of giggles AND of explicit language — keep the misunderstandings comical, not punitive
  • Sustain interest: rotate the topic (sandwich, Lego, get dressed, feed dog, plant a seed, build a paper airplane); film a few “tutorials” for grandparents
  • Common mistake: doing it for the child; finishing their sentences (“and then you cut the bread, right?” — let them say it); using only food activities; not playing dumb enough (the listener has to genuinely fail for the language to grow)
  • Limited space: shoe-tying, hand-washing, getting dressed — no equipment needed; “how do I get to the bathroom from here?” is a portable version
  • Cross-domain: math (measurement — “how many slices?”); fine motor (the actual doing if the child performs alongside); literacy (later, write the recipe down); social skills (teaching siblings)
  • Progression: 2-step process (put on shoes) → 4-step process (brush teeth) → recipe (make a sandwich) → multi-step craft (build a paper airplane) → teach a peer without adult support → write down the recipe with adult scribing

Sources

  • Hughes, D., McGillivray, L. & Schmidek, M. (1997). *Guide to Narrative Language: Procedures for Assessment*. Thinking Publications
  • Uccelli, P., Demir-Lira, Ö. E., Rowe, M. L., Levine, S. & Goldin-Meadow, S. (2019). "Children's early decontextualized talk predicts academic language proficiency in midadolescence." Child Development, 90(5), 1650–1663
  • Snow, C. E. & Dickinson, D. K. (1990). "Social sources of narrative skills at home and at school." First Language, 10(29), 87–103
  • Beck, I. L. & McKeown, M. G. (2007). "Increasing young low-income children's oral vocabulary repertoires through rich and focused instruction." The Elementary School Journal, 107(3), 251–271
  • Heath, S. B. (1983). *Ways with Words: Language, Life, and Work in Communities and Classrooms*. Cambridge University Press
  • Common Core W.K.2 — informative / explanatory texts; SL.K.4 — describe familiar people, places, things, events
  • Head Start ELOF — P-LC 7 (uses language in increasingly complex ways)
  • UK EYFS — Communication & Language ELG (offers explanations using past, present, and future tenses; makes use of connectives like "because")

The child explains how to do something step-by-step to a “clueless” listener — an adult, sibling, or stuffed animal who pretends to know nothing at all. The exaggerated ignorance (“Wait, what’s bread? Do I eat the wrapper?”) forces the child to be explicit about every step and to use the procedural connectives first, then, after that, finally.

  1. Pick a process the child knows. Sandwich-making, brushing teeth, building a Lego model, feeding the dog, getting ready for bed, planting a seed.
  2. Adult plays the clueless apprentice. “I want to make a sandwich! I’ve never made one. What do I do first?”
  3. Child explains a step. Adult literally does it wrong. Bread on the head. Toothbrush in the ear. Lego upside-down. The comedy is the engine.
  4. Child corrects with more detail. “No! You put the bread on the PLATE, with the long side down!” Notice how the detail-density grows when the listener fails.
  5. Continue through 4–8 steps. Use clarifying questions: “And then what?”, “How much?”, “Which knife?”
  6. Switch roles. Adult explains how to do something silly (“how do you put on socks?”); child plays the clueless learner. Modelling the explicit-explanation pattern from the other direction deepens the structure.

Variation: Real Cooking Together — child recalls the steps from a simple recipe; adult only follows what’s said. Lego Instructions — child has built a model; adult has the pieces and copies what the child describes (without looking). Stuffed-Animal Lesson — teddy “wants to learn”; child teaches teddy. Robot Mode — adult is a robot who takes instructions literally (“walk to the fridge” — robot walks into the fridge); child must give more precise commands. Video Tutorial — child explains a process on camera while doing it; rewatch.

Procedural discourse is a distinct genre from narrative — it has its own cognitive structure (ordered steps, action verbs, conditionals) and its own developmental trajectory (Hughes, McGillivray & Schmidek, 1997). Uccelli et al.’s (2019) decontextualized-talk study found that explanatory and procedural talk in preschool was the strongest preschool predictor of academic language in middle adolescence — outperforming vocabulary and contextualized-talk measures. The “clueless listener” frame forces audience-design (theory of mind) and explicit ordering. Snow & Dickinson (1990) identified instructional / explanatory genres as the form of home talk most predictive of school readiness in low-income families. The same skill underpins Common Core W.K.2 (informative / explanatory writing) — children who can explain a process orally are better positioned to write one later. Honest framing — 5-year-olds typically produce 3–4 well-ordered steps; expecting 7+ is developmentally premature without scaffolding. Build slowly.